Depression is a disturbance in mood characterized by varying degrees of sadness, disappointment, loneliness, hopelessness, self-doubt, and guilt. Most people tend to feel depressed at one time or another, but some people may experience these feelings more frequently or with deeper, more lasting, effects. In some cases, depression can last for months or even years. The most common type of depression is what is referred to as “feeling blue” or “being in a bad mood.” These feelings are usually brief in duration and have minimal or slight effects on normal everyday activities.
In the next level of depression, symptoms become more intense and last for a longer period of time. Daily activities may become more difficult…but the individual is still able to cope with them. It is at this level, however, that feelings of hopelessness can become so intense that suicide may seem the only solution.
A person experiencing severe depression may experience extreme fluctuations in moods or even a desire for complete withdrawal from daily routine and/or the outside world.
Depression may affect one’s life in any of the following ways:
Crying spells or, at the other extreme, lack of emotional responsiveness.
Changes in Feelings and/or Perceptions
Changes in Behavior and Attitudes
Being honest with yourself about changes in mood or the intensity of negative feelings as they occur will help you identify possible sources of depression or stress. You should examine your feelings and try to determine what is troubling you — relationships with family or friends, financial responsibilities, and so forth. Discussing problems with the people involved or with an understanding friend can sometimes bring about a resolution before a critical stage of stress is reached. Even mild depression should be dealt with if it interferes with your effectiveness. You might also try to:
Change your normal routine by taking a break for a favorite activity or something new — even if you don’t feel like it;
Exercise to work off tension, improve digestion, help you relax, and perhaps improve your ability to sleep;
Avoid known stressors;
Avoid making long-term commitments, decisions, or changes that make you feel trapped or confined — it is better to put them off until you feel you are better able to cope; and
See a physician, especially if physical complaints persist.
Helping a Depressed Friend
Since severely depressed individuals can be very withdrawn, lethargic, self-ruminating, and possibly suicidal, a concerned friend can provide a valuable and possibly life-saving service. Talking candidly with the individual regarding your concern for his or her well being will often bring the problems out into the open.
As you talk with your friend, the American College Health Association advises the following:
Do not try to “cheer up” the individual.
Do not criticize or shame, as feelings of depression cannot be helped.
Do not sympathize and claim that you feel the same way as he or she does.
Try not to get angry with the depressed individual.
Your primary objective is to let the person know you are concerned and willing to help.
If feelings of depression appear to turn to thoughts of suicide, urge the individual to seek professional help. If the person resists such a suggestion and you feel that suicide is likely — seek professional help yourself, so you will know how to best handle the situation.
Depression is treatable and needless suffering of those who experience it can be alleviated. A mental health professional should be consulted when an individual experiences any of the following circumstances:
When pain or problems outweigh pleasures much of the time;
When symptoms are so severe and persistent that day-to-day functioning is impaired; and/or
When stress seems so overwhelming that suicide seems to be a viable option.
If you believe you are experiencing any of these symptoms please contact us at 217-581-3413.